If life with your teen has become a battleground, it's time to take action. This empathic book shows how. Trusted psychologists who have worked with thousands of families give you the tools you need to overcome defiance and get teen behavior back on track. By following the authors' clinically proven 10-step program, learn how you can: *Reestablish your authority while building trust. *Identify and enforce nonnegotiable rules. *Use rewards and incentives that work. *Communicate and problem-solve effectively--even in the heat of the moment. *Restore positive feelings in your relationship. *Develop your teen's skills for becoming a successful adult. Vivid stories and answers to frequently asked questions help you put the techniques into action. The updated second edition incorporates new scientific research on why some teens have more problems with self-control than others. Practical forms and worksheets can be downloaded and printed in a convenient 8 1/2"" x 11"" size. Mental health professionals, see also the authors' Defiant Teens, Second Edition: A Clinician's Manual for Assessment and Family Intervention. For a focus on younger children, see also Dr. Barkley's Defiant Children, Third Edition (for professionals), and Your Defiant Child, Second Edition (for parents).
Introduction I. You and Your Defiant Teen 1. What Defiance Is--and What You Should Do about It 2. How Defiance Develops 3. What Does Adolescence Have to Do with It? 4. Is It Just Your Teen's Personality? 5. Where Do You Come In? 6. How to Find a Way Out II. 10 Steps to a Better Relationship with Your Teen--and a Better Future for Your Teen 7. Getting Ready 8. Step 1. Making Positive One-on-One Time a Habit 9. Step 2. A New Way to Manage Behavior 10. Step 3. Contracts and Point Systems: How Teens Can Earn Privileges 11. Step 4. Making the Punishment Really Fit the Crime 12. Step 5. Tackling Additional Issues with Rewards and Penalties 13. Step 6. Addressing Defiant Behavior in School and Conflicts over Homework 14. Step 7. Using Problem-Solving Skills 15. Step 8. Learning and Practicing Communication Skills 16. Step 9. Dealing with Unreasonable Beliefs and Expectations 17. Step 10. Keeping It Together Appendix A. Sample Problem-Solving Worksheets Appendix B. How to Find a Therapist Resources